I'd like to discuss the theme of "self sacrifice" as it runs amongst many, particularly women.
If you sacrifice yourself for another, and by sacrifice I mean 'giving up something valued for the sake of another', you are a victim of the belief systems of self sacrifice.
You become a victim of this believe system and therefore disempower yourself.
A victim says 'it's not fair".
A victim is continually trying to make reparation.
A victim makes everyone else powerful and places themselves at the mercy of them.
This is not compatible with "receiving".
Whilst ever you feel it is your responsibility or duty to put the wants and needs of another or others ahead of your own, you disempower yourself. You hand your power and self determination over to them.
Whilst ever you believe you have to make reparations for something you did, never forgiving yourself, you are a victim. Helpless and at the mercy of those you gifted your power to.
Victimhood is a form of self punishment.
Victimhood says "I am helpless, I am hopeless, I cannot change things."
At what time, in this voyage through life, do you stop and accept that whatever went wrong, is what it is and let it go?
At what time do you say it is not my responsibility to support others to the detriment to myself?
At what point, do you say "I matter"?
Some of us are living our lives purely to make others lives more comfortable or happy or safe or perfect.
We never stop to think about our own happiness, well-being, success, adventure or joy.
Does this self sacrifice earn respect or love?
Do these people you hand your power to show their gratitude to you or do they simply expect that you shall continue placing them first and accommodating all of their needs and wants above your own?
Would they change their lives to come to your aid if you were in need?
Fear often keeps us in this pattern of self sacrifice.
Fear and self sacrifice can create dis - ease within the body.
Many of us who are in this pattern are here in this life to break it. To break the pattern of self sacrifice.
To do so, one needs to acknowledge that this is in fact the situation, then accept is as so in order to enable change.
To those who are sacrificing themselves, you can change if you acknowledge that this is a pattern and if you are willing to hand back the responsibility of other lives to them and allow them to look after themselves. It is a gift because when you carry the burden, when you take away the responsibilities of others and make them dependent upon you, you are incurring Karma.
It is not your role to carry others in their lives, although often they are happy for you to do so.
It is for you to be strong enough to hand back their responsibilities to them so that they may learn their lessons.
We are not here on this earth to live a life of sacrifice for another.
We are here to live our lives to the best of our abilities in Joy, to learn our lessons, fulfil our plan and complete our Voyage successfully.
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